glumshoe:

Aesthetic expression is not the defining feature of “queerness”. How you present yourself visually to the world is a personal choice, which is itself informed by many factors. Facial piercings and colored hair do not make you “more queer” than someone who does not have or want those things. Do not derisively accuse someone of being a “cishet assimilationist” because they bind, or use breast forms, or don’t seem to have enough tattoos or piercings to declare themselves visually nonconformant to your satisfaction.